I came out of surgery softer. It took me a while to realise that was the point.

Hysterectomy recovery tip number one: grieve the woman you were.

Nobody tells you that bit. They tell you about the recovery time, the hormone changes, the things to avoid lifting. Nobody tells you that you might come out completely different. That something shifts so fundamentally you just, feel it. In the way you move. In what you care about. In what you're no longer willing to do.

I came out softer. It took me a while to realise that was the point.

The force I had before, that relentless, proving-myself energy, it's gone. Since I closed my salon I had something to prove. The goal was always more. Multiple businesses. Six figures. Growth that looked impressive from the outside.

But somewhere between the surgery and the stillness, the goal changed. Quietly. Without announcement.

The goal now is slow. Peace. Calm. Freedom.

This Easter, for the first time in twelve years of self-employment, I took time off the laptop. No to-do list. Nothing to complete. I genuinely cannot remember the last time that happened.

And here's what I keep coming back to, every day I turn up for myself, I'm turning up for a future version of me. The 70 year old me who can garden with ease. The school run me who can calm herself down when the day is going to shit. The me in Homesense who wants the candle and whose business supports her enough to just buy it.

Every decision today has an impact on a future version of you. Let that sink in.

I don't care what position I come in anymore. I'm not running anyone else's race. The energy I used to spend comparing, competing, proving, it's available for better things now.

I've been in West Wales this week. Wrapped up in my dryrobe on a cliff top, kids running about, not going anywhere near that sea. Completely content. My father in law ploughed my new thirty metre veg patch and I'm standing looking at it with absolutely no idea what I'm doing. I bloody love my caravan and I make no apology for it.

This is not everyone's version of abundance. It is mine.

And that's the whole point. Someone else's version of happiness, success, wellbeing, it has nothing to do with you. The sooner we stop measuring our lives against someone else's highlight reel, the sooner we get to actually live them.

You do you. Unapologetically. Without waiting for permission from anyone.

The life that's quieter, slower, and more yours than anything you could have planned, that's the wealthy life. Your version of it. And it is more than enough.

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